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How to Be Confident: 25 Professional Tips That Really Work

Self-confidence how to be confidentHow to be confident is a question that troubles many people. With no real answers most of the time.

Just search for that question in google and you’ll quickly realize that you can find some good tips, but not good enough to help you build self confidence.

Why? Because many of them are superficial. Self confidence tips like “dress well” “exercise” or “think positively” aren’t going to help someone who suffers from lack of self-confidence because of deeper issues. Plus, they don’t really talk about real and solid self-confidence. They, the tips, dabble on the surface of the self confidence and character strength.

Those 25 tips are going to help you, just after you read them, to feel a little bit more confident. And after you actually start applying them you’re going to watch your self-confidence skyrocket everyday.

First and foremost, let me tell you why i decided to write this very important article as a list.

I don’t like to create lists for a topic like self confidence, because it’s a board topic and i like to go deep and give examples, stories, reasons and so on. We must first identify the roots of the problem and work there.

I once tried to write an article about self-confidence and it ended up being a wall of text with more than 5000 words.

Only few people will read that, and even then they do, they will get overwhelmed most probably.

A list is much easier to read, digest and take action based on it. So why not take the information that I’ve put in my previous article, add new information, and put all of this in one huge list that people can read and understand easier.

And that’s exactly what I’ve done.

This is a list that’s based on in-depth information, not a list that contains superficial tips like “dress well’  “treat yourself nicely” or “be positive”.

This a list that’s aimed for people who are sick of these superficial tips and who want stuffs that will work, still in a readable and a digestible manner.

Sounds too good to be true? Read and see for yourself.

How to be confident: The ultimate checklist

This list for you if you want to be charming, outgoing and confident in yourself. If you want to feel like you’re really strong and worthy person, from the inside. And if you’re sick of the superficial tips online.

The list is divided into four categories as you’re going to see. It’s a long list and a long article. But building self-confidence is worth it.

the categories are:

  1. The basics: just basic stuffs about self confidence. Plus few fundamental things that you need to do.
  2. The underlying reasons: here we talk about some of the stuffs that may cause you to lose self confidence, and how to deal with them.
  3. Dealing with people: includes insights into how to communicate effectively with people in order to build, and keep, self confidence.
  4. The building bricks: those are practical tips that you can apply to boost your self confidence.

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The Basics:

1. Know thyself:

Here’s a technique that will help you boost your self-confidence.

It’s based on the total elimination of the opinions of others. To do that you need to know your strength and weakness points.

Get a piece of paper and write a list for both, your strength and weakness.

All the traits that you like about yourself, and don’t tell me you don’t have ones, be fair, everyone has good traits.

If you can’t think of any, ask those who you trust and those who are close to you and those who really love you. They will surprise you with some cool stuffs.

Also write a list for the things that you consider weakness, but don’t go too wild here (we’re going to talk about inner critic in seconds), just to remind you of what you can improve. After all, we’re just humans and we have weakness no matter how strong we are.

Spend as much time as you need to create those two lists.

Now you know who you are. Whenever someone, especially a stranger or a hater, tries to define you, look at your lists and see if it’s true or not. If yes, it won’t hurt that much. If no, just disregard the comment.

Just note that your weakness points don’t necessary reflect your flaws, they’re fields for improvement and proofs that you’re a human.

Before you start creating your lists, make sure you read the rest of this list to do that correctly without labeling yourself.

The credit for this technique goes to Farouk from 2knowmyself.

2. Define what does self-confidence mean to you:

We’re all different. And our differences must be considered when we talk about building self-confidence.

Think about it as a set of rules. Rules that you have to meet in order for you to feel self-confident.

For someone, self confidence could mean giving presentation and public speeches.

For another person, self confidence could mean talking to strangers and basically talking to anyone freely.

And for another person, it could mean being able to communicate well with the other sex.

For someone else, it could mean following his dreams with courage and grit.

And, of course, for someone it could mean a mix of the above.

You have to know what does self confidence mean to you. Forget about the definition of self confidence you hear from everybody. What matters is what you believe. Your own rules are what govern the game.

Once you define that, start working on it. Trust me, you’re going to feel a lot confident when you accomplish things, no matter how small they are, that your own brain consider as “self confidence”.

Just note that you have to be careful with your rules, read this article to know about rules and how they can make you happy or unhappy: How Unconscious Rules are Making You Sick (and what to do about it)

3. Nobody is confident all the time:

Nobody, period! I don’t care who he/she is.

Including you and I.

Nobody can be confident all the time, we all have our ups and downs, we all have times when we feel disappointed and sad, we all go through tough situations.

I’m telling you this so that you don’t judge yourself harshly when you start building your confidence, there will be “off days”.

Also people have different levels of self confidence on different ares. Someone can be confident talking to a stranger but uncomfortable giving a presentation.

Self confidence is not constant, it can change from time to time and from a situation to another.

Yes aim to be better by closing the gaps that you find in your self confidence, but remember, you can’ be perfect here as well.

4. Keep a journal of the things that you’re proud of:

When you get knocked down, it’s really hard to see the good side, and it’s pretty easy to focus on all the negative stuffs. Your negative thoughts will breed more negative thoughts.

For example, when you feel insecure, you’ll forget about all the times that you’ve felt confident before. and you may label yourself as an insecure person who had done some great things, instead of a confident person who feels insecure sometime as a result of being a human.

I’ve experienced this many times. I feel bad about myself and I immediately dismiss all the good things that I’ve done in the past.

So, whenever you do something that you’re proud of, write it down. Open a new note on your phone and write what you’ve done and how you feel about yourself as a result.

When you feel down, those notes can help a lot. When your negative self-talk and inner critic take over, you’ll be supported by those notes.

When you feel insecure, remember the times that you’ve felt really confident and you were able to conquer harder situations. Not to stop feeling insecure at the time, but to not let this temporary insecurity to ruin your self confidence. Your hard-earned self confidence.

5. Your Body Language:

You need to have a confident body language. By having it, you’ll be perceived more confident by the people around you, and also you’ll feel better and more confident. The way you use your body affects your mood and mental state, that’s proven.

If your body language is strong and expressive, you’ll end up feeling that. And vice-versa. So it’s a win-win. You’ll feel more confident, people will perceive you as more confident which in turn will reinforce that for you even further.

Now, Here are some quick tips that will transform your body language:

  • The head: Always look up. Keep your chin up and look straight ahead, period. And don’t avoid eye contact, never.
  • The shoulders and the chest: Don’t pull your shoulders back, although they need to be back there, pulling them back isn’t going to work. Instead focus on the chest, pull the chest out in a relaxed way, that will naturally put your shoulders in their right place while having the chest in its right place too.
  • The back: Keep it straight like your life depends on your back being straight. A straight back reflects confidence more than anything, make sure you keep it STRAIGHT. Also it’s good for your health.
  • The arms: While standing, keep them relaxed on your sides, or you can put them behind your back and stand straight. Don’t ever put them inside of your pockets. While moving, swing them slowly and gently.
  • The legs: Keep them shoulders-width apart. Keep your feet pointing outward. Stand on your both legs like they’re planted on the ground, don’t swing around while standing.

That should give you a good start. Just keep on mind that it’s going to take time to adjust your posture, especially if you were conditioned for a lot of time to have a bad one. Be patient.

Last but not least, don’t use body language as your only strategy to build self confidence. Alone, it won’t give you real and solid confidence, keep in mind the rest of the tips in this article.

The Underlying Reasons:

6. Get over perfectionism:

One of the things that can make you not only lose your self-confidence but also ruin your entire life is perfectionism.

You either want it all or want nothing at all.

It’s when you want everyone to like you. It’s when you want everyone to cheer for what you’re doing.

Perfectionism is when you expect that everything that you do must be flawless, you should never make any mistake and you should always win.

If you met 10 people and 8 of them actually enjoyed your company, you were confident and humor, but only 2 people didn’t like you then it’s not a bad thing. A typical perfectionist will think of it this way “only 8 people enjoyed my company, I’m such a boring person”.

That’s insanity. No one is ever perfect. The end of this road is frustration, depression and disappointment.

Yes aim to become better, aim to do great job, but know that reaching “perfect” is something that us, human beings, can never do.

7. Learn about BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder):

Some people lack self confidence because they think that they’re ugly.

More than 90% of girls -15 to 17- want to change at least one aspect of their appearance, obese boys and girls have significantly lower self- esteem than their peers, and more than half teenage girls are, or think they should be, on diets.

And even though statistics suggest that it’s a bigger problem for girls, still many guys are also losing their self esteem because they hate their physical appearance.

So, if you think that you’re ugly or unattractive, and lack confidence because of that, you first need to know that you’re not alone at all.

Second, you need to know that there’s a big possibility that your looks are just fine. You won’t believe me, I know. But you might believe scientist and psychology.

There’s a disorder that’s called BDD and it makes people actually look in the mirror and see an ugly person regardless of how they look like, even if they are gorgeous. Some celebrities suffer from, at least, symptoms of this disorder.

Now, I’m not here to diagnose anyone. I’m only suggesting that if you hate your looks, sometimes think you look find and other times not, having people tell you that you look fine but you don’t believe them …etc, then reading about this BDD thing can be very helpful.

Don’t let your mind deceive you.

Here are some good and reliable resources to learn about BDD:

8. Solve any inferiority:

If you feel, deep inside of you, that you’re less worthy than other people, your self confidence will suffer a lot.

Inferiority can come in many way, some of them are mentioned in this post (like thinking you’re ugly, some of the bad habits). It also can be a result of some events in your childhood, examining your past can be a good idea.

Sometimes your entire self confidence issues will be solved as soon as you get over your inferiority complex. However, the process may include going through many tips from this list and working on them.

Working on solving inferiority complex can give a clue about why you’ve lost your self confidence in the first place.

In short, maybe your lack of self confidence is nothing but an inferiority complex, which is good news. Because working on solving it will help you build a healthy self esteem.

Usually inferiority is linked to shame, you feel ashamed of who you are for whatever reason.

OK, I don’t like to do this, but because this is a list that covers a lot of topics I can’t dive deep on inferiority right now, instead I’ll give you some helpful links that will help you to do that on your own:

9. Control you inner critic:

We all have that sound inside of us that’s telling us that we’re not good enough.

To be honest with you, the “inner critic” is a board subject, and I’m still researching it to really understand this a**hole living inside of us and whose sole mission is to make us feel bad about ourselves.

Is there’s a positive intention behind his actions? Maybe improvement? I don’t really know.

When I know I’ll share that with you. For now, I think some of the tips in this article and few more will help you out dealing with this harsh inner critic:

  • Remember the first point about “know thyself”?: whenever you find yourself saying to yourself stuffs that aren’t on your list, stop. That’s your inner critic talking. Whenever you find yourself doubting the good things on your list and amplifying the bad ones, it’s your inner critic taking over.
  • Talk to him/her as another person who lives inside of you: give him a funny name, and whenever he starts criticizing you, call him with that name and tell him to cut the crap. Un-identifying yourself from him can be a good idea.
  • You don’t have to always shut him off, but never believe him: he’s an immature version of you. Don’t believe his words. And when you’re feeling really down, it’s normal to find him jumping all over your head and labeling you. Don’t believe a word that he says.

Dealing With People

10. People are not super-humans:

Many people when they communicate with others they think that they’re interacting with superman or spiderman or something.

They think that those they’re interacting with don’t feel bad, don’t feel insecure, always confident, don’t have their down times, don’t have problems, immune to pain, can fly and probably have a sword somewhere in their closet.

In other words, they put them on a pedestal, and they look down at themselves.

Look, those people you see around you everyday, even the most confident ones, aren’t super-humans. They feel bad sometimes, they feel insecure just like you sometimes, they have their own share of pain, they have their own problems, fears, aspirations, hopes, disappointments, regrets, glory moments and tears.

They make mistakes too. They don’t like rejection and even fear it. And some of them are afraid of you just as much as you’re afraid of them.

We’re all humans. No one is perfect nor a super-human. So, that confident guy you feel small around him is just a human like you, with ups and downs, rights and wrongs, confidence and insecurities.

11. Don’t assume anything:

Your thoughts and beliefs about yourself govern your perception and how you interpret the things around you [Read: 77 Thought Provoking Questions to Shake Your World (In a Good Way)].

That’s why you need to stop assuming anything while working on building self confidence. And even after you build it sometimes, so that you can keep it.

I’ll give you an example. Assuming that the guy who is always quiet around you, and just gives you weird looks, hate you. Assuming that those guys who were sitting there talking and looking at you were talking about how ugly and unconfident you look like.

Stop those assumptions. That guy who you think hate you could be shy. He could be anxious. He could be just quite and doesn’t like to talk a lot. Or he might has no opinion of you at all.

Those guys who were whispering to each others could’ve been talking about how you look like somebody they know. They could’ve been talking about something that isn’t related to you at all.

Why pick up the worst scenario?

In short, next time someone ignores you or treats you kind of badly, stop your wild thoughts right there and don’t assume anything at all. Many reasons that are unrelated to you will be filtered in the process, and that will destroy your self confidence even further.

12. Here’s how to deal with criticism:

Many people have a tough time dealing with criticism. They don’t like it. They consider it a personal attack that reveals their weakness.

Here are some tips to handle criticism more effectively, and maybe even embrace it:

  • Make sure you get rid of perfectionism: you’re not trying to be perfect anymore.
  • Constructive criticism is nothing to be ashamed of: those who criticize you because they love you, or at least because they want you to improve and wish the best for you, are good people with good intentions. You should listen to them. That’s it, discuss it with them and learn something or too. Especially if they know what they’re talking about.
  • The rest of the criticism is pointless and should be totally ignored: there are those who criticize you because they love you. But there are those who criticize you because they hate you. Because they’re jealous of you. Because that hate themselves. Because they hate the entire world. Because they don’t like seeing somebody succeeding or trying to. So, they criticize you to put you down and feel good about themselves.
  • 99.99% of the time it’s not about you: as we said, some people hate themselves. Some people project their insecurities, fears and lack of self confidence on others to feel good about themselves. The second type of criticism is not about you at all, it’s about the person that’s criticizing you.

13. Run away from toxic and insecure people:

Run like your life depends on it, because it does.

Some people out there are very good at making you feel small. And even if you were self confident, you’ll lose your self confidence after being with them for a while.

Some people are insecure, and they project their insecurities into you. They’re cowards, so they make you believe that you’re a coward, just to feel better about themselves. They lack something, so they make you think that you lack it too.

Other people are just negative, they see the bad side in everything, including themselves and even your own personality. It’s just the way they see the world, it has nothing to do with you. They zoom on the negativity.

Get away from them as well.

Generally, those who, no matter how great of a day you’re having, manage to make you feel worthless, get away from them. Get away from any body who make you feel like there’s something wrong with you, even if those people are close friends or close family members.

The Building Bricks:

14. Assertiveness is a must:

Assertiveness is standing up for your own rights and making sure that you’re not deprived of them.

The right to say no without explaining yourself. The right to be treated with respect. And the right to make mistakes and not make anybody make you feel worthless if you make one.

Lack of assertiveness will result in making you respect yourself less, because you let people walk all over you.

Assertiveness, on the other hand, will make your brain think highly of you. Think of your brain as an outside observer, now he’s proud of you.

Put your needs first, it’s not selfishness to refuse to do something when you feel like someone is asking for too much. Stand for yourself each time you feel like you’re not treated with respect or when you feel like someone is asking for too much.

Every time you say yes to someone, you’re saying no to yourself. If you have other important things to do, and someone is asking you to help him with his studies, then just say no to him and yes to yourself. You can explain why or you can simply say no. Some will understand, others won’t. But it doesn’t matter.

What matters is that your brain, as an outside observer, will think highly of you because you’re respecting yourself enough to stand up for your rights. And vice versa.

15. Here’s how to deal with self-consciousness:

Self consciousness is one of the things that make people suffer in social situations and feel less confident.

Below I’ll share two strategies that will help you reduce self consciousness:

  • Consciously focus outwards: focus on the things around you. Notice the color of clothes the person you’re talking to is wearing. The weather today. Find something special on the person you’re talking to (their eye’s color, the tone of their voice …etc) and focus on it (but be careful not to judge it, just focus on it). This will help you be more present and less focused on yourself.
  • Prove to yourself that it’s just in your mind: when you’re in public next time feeling self conscious, look around you to see if the whole world is looking at you. Slowly look at the people around you, without drawing their attention to you, and see where they’re looking at. 99% of the people around you most probably aren’t looking at you, and almost all of them don’t care about you that much. Do that few times to shake off the belief that everybody is looking at you.
  • Bonus tip: read this study that found that most people don’t care that much, even if you were wearing a silly and embarrassing t-shirt.

16. Work on your skills (competence):

Self confidence isn’t complete without competence. After all, self confidence is knowing that you can do/handle something correctly.

You’re confident about your ability to walk because you know you can. But what about your ability to approach a stranger, to go on a date, to give a presentation, to start a business.

The more you work on developing the skills that you need (based on how you define self-confidence, see above), the more confident you’ll become on the long run.

Yes a leap of faith is required in the beginning, but the more you do it, the more competence you’ll be. And your self confidence would be based on solid facts, which will reinforce it even further.

There’s a debate about which one come first, competence or confidence. I have no answer for that. But what I can tell you is that they can go hand in hand, providing that you have the courage to take the first leaps of faith.

Here’s an article that talks about competence, among other things about self-confidence as well: 10 Ways to Build Self Confidence Like Robert Downey jr. Without Drugs

17. Have a healthy attitude towards mistakes:

Many people lose, or never manage to build, their self confidence as a result of making mistakes.

We talked above about overcoming perfectionism, however we also need to learn how to deal with the mistakes probably.

Someone may not be trying to be perfect at all, but as a result of making lots of mistakes he loses his self confidence. That’s a very common scenario, especially when you start to build your self confidence and make some mistakes at the beginning.

The real problem is not with mistakes, the real problem is with the way we handle those mistakes.

Here’s how to handle them correctly: as long as you have the desire to become better and reach where you want to go, you’re on the safe side (almost), no matter how many mistakes you may make.

How that can happen? By knowing that mistakes are not only a part of being human, but also knowing that they won’t and can’t destroy you. You’re going to rise again.

That’s it. If you know that you can’t be perfect, and you have the desire to be better, and also you know that mistakes won’t destroy you because you’re coming back stronger fixing what you’ve done, you’re great!

I’ve written about this in details right here: Personal Failures: This is How to Handle Them

18. Get out of your comfort zone at least once a week:

“Self esteem comes from putting yourself on the line and doing something that’s extremely difficult on a regular basis.” -Tony Robbins.

Getting out of your comfort zone can help you not only build self-confidence, but also build your character and improve your life in general.

By stepping out of the comfort zone, you can overcome shyness, destroy social anxiety and do things that make you really proud of yourself for the rest of your life.

You comfort zone is different from the person’s next to you comfort zone. So, you need to get that figured out first.

Talking to strangers, giving a presentation, giving a public speech to a huge audience, or doing something embarrassing/weird in the street on purpose to give a shit less about what people think of you.

And it doesn’t have to be only related to social aspects. Taking risks and putting yourself on the line, forcing yourself to go to the gym when you don’t feel like it, committing to read 20 pages each day or just sitting down with emotional discomfort.

Note that when you step out of your comfort zone, you’ll feel lots and lots of uncomfortable emotions, and that’s the point. You must handle them. Here’s an article that talks about that in details: The Truth About Uncomfortable Emotions and the Comfort Zone

19. Break some of your bad habits:

Guilt, shame and helplessness are very powerful emotions that can ruin your self-esteem.

And sometimes, without we even notice, some of our bad habits make us feel these destructive emotions and ruin our self-esteem.

The guilt and shame that come from doing something that’s in conflict with your values and with the way you see yourself. Plus the helplessness that you feel as a result of not being able to break free from that.

Sure not every single bad habit will destroy your self-confidence. This happens on the extreme examples. Watching porn, for example, can lead to feelings of inferiority and loss of self-confidence. Many people reported increased self-esteem after stopping this habit.

This is not excluded only to porn, the formula is guilt + shame + helplessness= ruined self-esteem. Any bad habit/behavior that leads to this must be stopped. Here’s a helpful guide to break bad habits.

20. Knowledge can boost self-esteem:

Think about it this way: more knowledge equals more resources (provided that you put that knowledge into action). More resources equal more skills. More skills equal more competence and as a result more confidence.

Knowledge is power. When you read books and learn new things you’ll have more respect towards yourself.

So go ahead and learn as much as you can. Read books, articles or whatever. Watch videos, attend seminars and courses. Ask mentors. And always aim to become better each day.

This kind of attitude will result in a higher self esteem as time goes on.

And, of course, reading more specifically about self-confidence is going to be helpful. For example, this article with all the things related to self-confidence will help a lot 🙂 Directly and indirectly.

21. Solve your biggest life’s problem/problems:

I’ll say it again, helplessness is one of the worst enemies to your self confidence.

When you feel like you can’t solve a big life problem that you’re facing, your self confidence will suffer.

Also, usually, your biggest life’s problem are related to things that are very important to you. As a result when you be able to solve them, not only your confidence levels will go up, but also your happiness levels as well.

Examples for those big problems: your body shape, your financial situations, your social skills, an addiction you’re suffering from …etc.

You might think that one of your biggest life’s problems is lack of self-confidence, but usually your lack of self confidence can come from those other big problems that you’re facing in your life.

Trust me, start working on solving your biggest life’s problems and you’ll experience not only increased self-confidence, but also relief, satisfaction, happiness and improved quality of life as well. (Read: I Hate My Life: Here’s Why And What to Do About it)

But remember that to do that effectively you need to be able to handle emotional pain…

22. Learn to manage your negative and uncomfortable emotions:

I’m talking about emotions like depression, sadness, fear, general discomfort, frustration, disappointment …etc.

While many self development sites want to tell you how to get rid of those emotions, I believe that we just can’t do that. We can’t get rid of them. Rather, we need to learn how to manage them.

Anyway, we’re not here to discuss that. We’re here to talk about how managing those emotions will help you boost your self confidence.

Managing those emotions will result in making you a stronger person. That in turn will affect your self confidence in a positive way. Being able to handle fearful, stressful, and tough situations will build not only your self confidence, but also your character.

23. Have a role model:

This is one of the best ways to build self confidence. Having someone to look up to, almost like an ideal that you do your best to reach his/her level, without putting him/her on a pedestal.

Think of a celebrity that you like, and think how he or she acts. Let’s take Will Smith for example, he’s my favorite. You’ll see how he acts, how we talks, walks, carries himself and everything in between.

Then you’ll act the same way. Not necessary overriding who you are, but rather keeping your own personality and style while taking the good things from your role model and adopting them.

This will help a lot.

From my own personal experience, thinking of a role model as a celebrity is effective, but there’s a more effective way to have a role model that will help you build self confidence.

And that by picking someone from your environment who is totally confident. If you can’t find one then go to an environment where you’ll find one.

That could be a confident guy from you college that you don’t even know, it just shows up through the way he walks and talks. That could be a confident friend of yours. Or that could be a teacher, a worker,

Someone that you can actually see and interact with in the real world. Not only you’ll be able to act like them or learn from them, but also you’ll inspire yourself to change and become that kind of person.

Go and be friends with that person if you can. Else just see how they act and follow their steps, without losing your own personality in the process.

This is, somehow, a sort of “fake it till you make it”, but in an improved way.

And one last thing, be aware of the narcissist, they don’t make good role models even though they look like they do.

24.Neediness and approval seeking are the worst:

Being depended on other people’s attention, approval and company is not only a turn off and a sign of low self-esteem, but also one of the fastest way to ruin your self confidence even further.

Remember that your brain is an outside observer, and it will notice this and look down at you.

And people don’t actually get impressed by those who try so hard to impress them. Not at all. People don’t like needy people.

What’s worse is that even if you managed to impress people, that doesn’t come free of charge. The price is your self esteem.

Many points on this article are aimed to make you less dependent[] on other’s approval and attention. However, you need to consciously make the effort to not seek any approval from anyone and to not be needy.

You’re a human and you have your own worth. You don’t need people to cheer for you in order to know that you’re worthy.

I’ve said this many times in this article and I’ll keep saying it, your mind is an outside observer. He’s the only one that you need to get his approval and impress, period.

The funny thing is when you do that and impress your own mind, people will be impressed as well, at least most of them. But it won’t matter any more to you 🙂

25.Time for real action:

This is a long post. Most probably you’re overwhelmed by now. Where to start? After all this is just a list, not a plan.

Well, to make things easier for you, I have a suggestion.

All the tips in this article can be helpful. Some of them can be more helpful to you according to your own unique situation.

Here’s what I want you to do.

Pick 5 tips right now, write them down, copy the text if you have to. And I want you to start applying those tips over the next 2 weeks.

Whether those tips require actual action or a change in your mindset. Start applying them.

It’s hard to take all the 23 tips in this article and try to apply them at the same time. Take only 5 tips, or even less (or more) if you want to, and apply them.

I’m sure that while reading some tips on this list resonated with you more than the rest. Pick those tips and start applying them.

Maybe just get out of your comfort zone, control your inner critic, learn about BDD, be assertive and have a role model.

Start applying very few tips, the tips that you feel are the most helpful to you.

After that you can comeback to this list and apply the rest of the tips whenever you need them. Or you can come back to this list whenever you need a kick-in-the-butt.


Truth must be said. I couldn’t figure out all the things I mentioned in this article all by my own. The tips and the information in this article are none of my own invention nor they are my own solid conclusion. Simply, they are the work of many other people. Again, I never claim that this list is a result of my own conclusion or effort.

I tried to mention/link to as many people as possible. However, still there are some people who I might have forgotten, or simply people who are in my real life and people who don’t have sites and content to mention them.

So, from the bottom of my heart, big thank you to everyone who helped in creating this work. Regardless of whether he/she is aware of the inspiration to create this or the information and help they gave.

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  1. Timon

    Awesome, great list of the many parts that make up confidence. I found, that realizing and accepting the world as it is, being okay with reality really helps with growing as well! What practice helped you the most to grow confident?

    Best, Timon

    • Hi Timon, Glad you liked it.

      I can’t think of one specific practice, but generally I can say: 1) Knowledge: competence gives you confidence, and to be competent you need to learn about how things work, whatever it’s I want to be confident at. 2) Going out of my comfort zone: putting the knowledge into action (facing my fears, doing things that scare me, putting myself out there …etc).

      Cheers 🙂

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