Feeling stuck can be one of the most devastating feelings.
The feeling that you hate where you are, but yet it feels like you won’t ever be able to change that. (Read: I Hate My Life: Here’s Why And What to Do About it)
Some people describe it as being stuck in a rut! And it’s absolutely true, because you feel like you do want to change, but you’re stuck and you can’t move.
In this article I’m going to give you 5 practical ideas that you can apply right now, right after you finish reading.
Also I’m going to show you how you can put all of these ideas (or any number you want) into one action plan that you can easily follow.
Those tips are going to help you when you get stuck in life, also they’re going to help you out if you don’t even know what to do with your life, you know when you feel lost and kind of confused in life.
Simply because they’re designed to give you a sense of clarity and purpose, which is going to help you whether you’re stuck in your path, or whether you don’t even know what path to take.
In short, this can be the article that helps get unstuck, or it can be the article that helps you find your own purpose.
OK, let’s dive in. But before we get into the practical ideas, I want to talk to you about faith, fear and doing your homework, because that’s very important too.
Faith, Fear And Doing Your Homework
Simply, fear and not doing our homework can be the reason why we feel stuck sometimes; we don’t do our homework because we’re afraid in the first place.
And faith can be the solution to fear sometimes, even when we’re paralyzed, taking the first step is essential, and it takes some courage and faith to take that step, especially when it’s dark and you can’t see anything.
“Fear kills hope, fear kills dreams, fear puts people in the hospital, fear can age you, fear can stop you from doing something that you know in your heart that you’re capable of doing”.
And this nice quote “Fear and faith have something in common; they both ask you to believe in something that you can’t see”
And you don’t have to be a religious person to “have faith”, in fact most successful people talk about a moment in their lives where they had to take a step with nothing but faith.
It’s during those moments of uncertainty that you realize you have to believe and trust in something that you can’t see, you choose; fear or faith.
Also doing your homework and working very hard is important too, you won’t get “unstuck” unless you do some work and take action.
- The Truth About Uncomfortable Emotions
- The Peak: Overcome Fears, Urges and Negative Emotions
- Greatness: Are You Doing Your 110%?
Now, let’s move on and get right into the practical ideas that you want to start applying today in your life.
5 Practical Ideas That Will Help You Get “Unstuck” In Life
1. Reunion Your Relationship With Yourself
What does that mean?
Well, to have a better relationship with anyone, you need to spend time with that person, don’t you?
So what about the person you see in the mirror? YOU. How are you going to have a good relationship with your own self?
In fact, why you even should have a better relationship with yourself?
Simply because you have to understand yourself very well in order to understand your goals and needs, and also because if you can’t have a good relationship with yourself, you won’t be able to solve life’s problems.
And it’s not just about spending some time with yourself, it’s about what you do during this time.
I’ve written an article before talking about how to have a healthy relationship with yourself, I described in it why it’s important and how to do it in details.
Here I’m going to sum things up, but you should check the original article where I described the entire process in details.
It’s all about scheduling a time on the weekend, 1-3 hours. That time is “your time” and nothing can interrupt you.
Basically you need to sit down with yourself at the end of every week and do the next:
- Review the last week, the good and the bad things (And learning the lessons).
- Make some commitments about the next week (What/who do want to do/be?).
- Planning the next week (making a plan with a schedule).
On the surface, this looks like just planning for your next week, but it’s much deeper than that.
When you start reviewing the last week, you will come across all the good and bad things you’ve done during that week.
Going through the bad things with the intentions of learning something from them and making sure you don’t do them again.
Going through the good things will make wonders to your self-esteem, because we have no idea how harsh we’re toward ourselves.
Going through your list of good things will remind you of all the good things that you’ve done throughout the week, which will give your confidence a boost.
And also it will make you aware of your good qualities and will inspire you to do more.
Last but not least, reviewing the good and bad things will give you a clue about what you need to work on and what you need to fix.
After that comes the last part, which is making a plan for the next week, basically managing your time.
I explained this in the article, make sure you read it..
2. Help Someone Out!
As crazy as it may sound, it works like charm!
When you’re down or when you feel stuck, helping someone out can be one the best things that you do.
Why? Let me explain.
When you do good things to other people, your self-esteem will get a boost, your mood will improve and you will feel better generally.
Volunteering, for example, can help you get more self-esteem, feel more connected to the society, and even help you to become more healthy (Volunteering and its surprising benefits).
Tony Robbins talks a lot about how giving is the secret to living, and how giving and helping someone can touch you emotionally and even change your entire perspective.
In a recent article in LinkedIn he said:
I feel the benefits of giving immediately. I become more productive. I find creative solutions to problems. I find strength when I’m exhausted. I don’t get ensnared by the “tyranny of how” because I’m so certain about the WHY I do what I do.
And you don’t need to hear this from me or anybody, deep down in our guts we all know that helping someone is an emotionally rewarding experience.
It can help you out when you’re feeling down, when you’re lost or when you feel stuck in life.
By helping someone you will start to believe that there’s hope somehow, also the good feelings are going to help you to do a good job.
Supporting a friend who is in pain, helping a completely stranger, making someone’s day somehow, visiting an old friend and making him/her feel good …etc, you name it!
Now doing those really good things won’t just magically turn your life around, doing these things will give you the energy and the clarity that you need in order to turn things around.
You still have to do your homework after doing these things, that’s why I’ve talked about that in the beginning of this article.
In short, when you’re stuck you can give yourself an emotional experience that will give you energy, drive and inspiration that you need in order to get unstuck.
3. Start A Learning Process
Einstein once said “You can’t solve a problem with the same mind that created it in the first place”.
That means you need to grow, you need to become better, smarter and stronger in order to solve your problem.
You can’t go to the next level with your same level of knowledge and with your same level of skills; you need to become better, period.
In fact, if you’re stuck in a rut, then there’s a big possibility that your current level of skills/knowledge isn’t enough to breakthrough and get where you want to be.
And there’s nothing to be ashamed of, none of us got this life figured out, we need to continually learn, especially when we get stuck.
And it makes sense, think about it, the more knowledgeable and skillful you are, the more you will be able to solve your problems much more effectively.
Learning from others who had gone through similar situations, learning from others who have more knowledge than you and learning for those who are more experienced than you, that’s gold!
Not only you will become better and stronger, mentally and emotionally, but also you will be able to get where you want to be much faster.
You’re not just learning from your own experiences and mistakes, you’re learning from other people’s experiences and mistakes, it’s like you’ve lived more than one life and gone through many experiences.
So, I encourage you to always learn and grow, you’re in a mission to become better, stronger and more knowledgeable.
But I insist on you to start a learning process when you get stuck and don’t know what to do.
Remember that you can’t solve a problem with the same level of thinking, knowledge and skills that created it, you need to grow.
That means you need to start a learning process, which includes reading (books, articles …etc), getting a mentor, watching videos, listening to podcasts or whatever.
And fortunately you’re in the best time to do that, technology is your ally here; you can download books, watch videos or even learn online.
You can read articles (like this one 🙂 ), you can go to YouTube and find some really good tutorials on how to do anything, or you can get courses online.
Or you can simply go the bookstore and buy few books and stuck your nose inside of them for the next three weeks.
Whatever you do, make sure that you’re growing and improving, and most importantly; make sure you apply what you learn.
“Learning is the beginning of wealth. Learning is the beginning of health. Learning is the beginning of spirituality. Searching and learning is where the miracle process all begins.” -Jim Rohn
I’m going to help you and save you some time by recommending some good resources that will help you start your learning process right now:
Books to read:
- The 7 Habit of Highly Effective People.
- Awaken The Giant Within.
- The 3rd Alternative.
- The Slight Edge.
- Alison.com: Free Course Online On Many Topics.
- Cultivating an Unshakable character By Jim Rohn (CDs, but you can find it on YouTube).
- Anything that can help you, from blogs to YouTube videos, use your common sense.
4. Resolve Any Inner-Conflict:
Inner conflict is one of the most popular reasons we get stuck.
Also it’s one of the reasons we don’t take action, because we have two conflicted desires inside of us.
When you start having more time with yourself, as we discussed above, you’ll start to see clearly what’s stopping you, and sometimes this might be a deep inner conflict.
One example is whether to let go of an abusive relationship, one part wants to stay in the relationship (for whatever reasons), and the other part wants to end that relationship.
In this case, if we don’t do anything to resolve this inner conflict, we’ll remain stuck not knowing what to do.
And in fact, many people think that resolving inner conflict is about going with one side and neglecting the other one, forcing your way out.
While in fact, if you don’t make both sides happy and satisfied, if you don’t make an agreement, inner conflict won’t be resolved.
Let’s see how we can resolve inner conflict.
Simply it’s all about understanding each side, you must understand each side and what it wants to accomplish.
Our example above about staying in the relationship or not, we must understand why, exactly, we want to stay in the relationship and why we want to get out.
What is your mind trying to get by staying in the relationship?
And what is it trying to get by getting out of the relationship?
Do you want to stay because you don’t want to give up on your partner, because you don’t want to be alone or because you will feel guilty?
Do you want to break up because you’re feeling that you’re not treated right, because you feel misunderstood, or because you’re afraid of commitment?
You need to know exactly what each side wants and why it wants it, that’s the first step.
Next, you need to find a common ground for both sides; you do that by defining what’s the most important thing to you.
For example: I don’t ever want to feel unloved or “humiliated”, no matter how much I love that person, feeling appreciated is the most important thing to me in that relationship.
In short, you must define what each part wants, and after that you need to define the most important thing to you.
It may not be as easy as it sounds, inner conflicts vary from person to person and from situation to another.
However, the idea is the same, take your time to do that and you’ll thank yourself after resolving your inner conflict.
There’s no other feeling like finally feeling free and having a sense of clarity after not knowing what to do.
5. Commit Small Disciplines
I know it’s difficult to do that when you feel stuck, but it’s one of the best things you can do.
Maybe you’re stuck because you don’t know how to act next, you’ve done everything you can but yet failed.
Maybe you’re stuck because you have an inner conflict like we discussed above.
Maybe you’re stuck because you simply don’t know what to do in the face of the problem you’re having.
In all these cases, making small disciplines will help you a lot.
Discipline yourself to wake up earlier each day and work on that project you don’t have time for.
Discipline yourself to sit down with yourself each week like we discussed in point #1.
Discipline yourself to read 20 pages each day like we discussed in point #3.
Whatever you do, make sure that you discipline yourself on small manners each day to become better.
Doing that will ensure you take action constantly, and that’s the most important thing you must do when you’re stuck or even when you’re not.
So make a list of small discipline that you start today which are going to benefit you on the long run, and start NOW.
How To Use This List Of Ideas?
It’s your list, use it however you like. I’m just going to give you a suggestion below.
First and foremost, you need to sit down with yourself each week and have that conversation like we discussed in point #1, that’s a must.
Then, during the week make sure you consciously apply the rest of the point, from learning, or helping people out. All of them are going to give you a push.
As simple as that.
Feeling stuck sucks! It makes us unable to take action or even think clearly.
In this article we discussed 5 practical ideas that you can start applying right now in order to get unstuck and have a sense of clarity and purpose.
Applying those ideas can help you a lot, after two weeks or so you can be in a totally different place, given that you work really hard.
Don’t let fear hold you back, have faith and apply those 5 simple ideas and you will improve a lot.
Those ideas can also help you when you feel lost and you don’t know what to do with your life, we all have such moments of uncertainty.
The most important factor here is to APPLY these ideas and take action upon them.
How do you deal with feeling stuck? Do you have other ideas that can help someone out there even more? Speak you mind below.