When it comes to self esteem, we can rest assure that there’s a real problem, maybe more than anytime before.
Maybe it’s because of the media pressure, the media is marketing an ideal man/woman that doesn’t really exist, from looks to status and attitude.
And it’s a problem, especially for girls.
According to Dove Research, 6 in 10 girls stop doing what they love because they feel bad about how they look, and only 4% of women really consider themselves beautiful!
Those are shocking statistics, and it’s not only about the body image, many people suffer from a low self esteem as a result of the way they were raised, we can’t deny that.
From abusing/narcissist parents, to neglect and criticism, we all have our own story.
In this article I’m going to give you one simple tip, maybe a little bit weird/uncommon one, to help you to boost self esteem and recover from the feeling “I’m small” much more faster.
But before we go any farther, let’s make a couple of things clear.
This tip won’t help you much if you already have many underlined issues for your lack of self esteem, because it only talks about one area about self-esteem.
For that matter you can check this article here:
That’s a monster and detailed guide that will give you a kick 😀
You can use this article to give your self esteem a boost during your down times (recover quickly from down times), however you shouldn’t rely only on it to overcome a low self esteem.
This tip can really work, it can boost self-esteem and it can help you to recover quickly from set-backs.
However, use this article as an assist, as a tool to help you out when you’re down and feeling really bad, but never rely on it build your entire self-esteem.
in brief, this tip will help you out, I’m sure, but it won’t/can’t solve all of your self esteem issues, for that matter you have to use it along with other techniques, this is only one area of self-esteem.
Now before we get into details, let’s first talk about how self esteem can change over time.
Self-esteem is NOT Constant
Self esteem can change over time, which means that we all suffer from a low self esteem during our down times, we all have those moments of weakness, and we can lose all of our self esteem at that point.
As a general rule, nobody is confident all the time, nobody has high self esteem levels all the time, that’s a lie.
Even models can feel insecure and bad about themselves, watch this model sharing her own feelings about this.
So, remember, if you’re having a “low self esteem”, first of all you need to realize that it’s a feeling that everybody experience at one point or another.
The thing is, we need to make sure that this feeling won’t stop us from getting what we want or from enjoying life.
As Tony Robbins says, even though nobody is confident all the time, we need to make sure that we turn on the self confidence when we need it.
Self-esteem And Doing Good Things
Our self confidence and self esteem is a result of many beliefs about ourselves in many aspects of our lives.
But … what does that mean?
It simply means that the way we see ourselves depends on many aspects, for example our skills, our looks, our status, our relationship with others and so on.
Someone can lack self confidence because he doesn’t believe that he has good skills to do something important for him.
Someone can lack self confidence because he doesn’t believe that he is attractive, and so on.
Someone can lose his self esteem because he feels guilty.
That’s why in the beginning of this article I said that this one single tip won’t change the whole thing, because it’s only about one aspect.
Now what about doing good things?
One of the aspects that affects the way we see ourselves is these good deeds!
To answer this question, we need to examine the opposite side, which is doing bad things.
And by “bad things” I don’t mean killing somebody!
I’m talking about small things like being rude to an old lady down the street, treating people in a bad way, acting like a coward or doing something that violates your deepest values …etc.
Here’s the thing, doing bad things will affect you emotionally, even if you are unaware of it, because guilt is a strong emotion, and also one of the hardest emotions to discover.
We feel guilty when we violate one of our values, whether it’s honesty or courage, and in fact most of us, if not all of us, secretly value things like honesty and integrity.
And guilt left without dealing with it, can completely destroy self esteem.
Sure I’m not talking about people who lack empathy like psychopaths, because lack of empathy will result in lack of remorse and lack of guilt.
Another perfect example is volunteering, people who volunteer not only they have high self-esteem, but also they have a general sense of well-being.
in fact, volunteering has so many benefits, even some studies claim that it has physical health benefits, and it wouldn’t be surprise because the mind affects the body.
Now volunteering is a perfect example because we generally do good things, more specifically we help other people, we do things that we start to look at ourselves in a different way (a positive one of course), and that’s the key.
Examples For Those Good Things That You Can Do
Every time you find yourself in a situation where you feel like you have a low self-esteem, or generally feeling down, try doing some of these things:
- Make a charity.
- Help an old lady to cross the street.
- Buy a candy and give it to the first child you see on the street (or your son maybe).
- Give a tip to a waiter.
- Make somebody you care about laugh.
- Call an old friend who you lost contact with.
- Help a little boy who is selling anything down the street by buying from him.
Just try doing some of these things while feeling down; even though they sound like small things, but they can really help you up.
So, How Doing Good Things Will Boost Your Self-Esteem?
If doing bad things makes you feel bad about yourself, then doing the opposite will result in feeling good about yourself.
Simply because your perception about yourself will change.
You will start to believe that you’re actually a good person.
Let’s take a look at addictions, people who watch porn report high levels of self confidence after abstaining for sometime.
And that’s because they stop doing a bad thing and at the same time they start to do many good things like exercising and socializing.
Simply, because good deeds erase those bad deeds.
I can keep on explaining how doing things will boost your self-esteem, but that would be a totally waste of your time.
You need to actually try this, that’s the only way to really believe that this works
“There are some things you don’t have to know how it works – only that it works. While some people are studying the roots, others are picking the fruit. It just depends on which end of this you want to get in on.”
When you feel down, or when you feel like your self esteem is at its lowest points, don’t fight this feeling, instead try doing some good things to help yourself up.
I highly suggest doing this every time you feel lost or down.
Because doing good things will actually make you feel good about yourself, and this can be a great assist when you feel down.
And as I said, this can help, but It won’t solve all of your self esteem problems, that needs time and effort more than just doing good things.
But this tip will help you up when you feel down, and when you feel like you are so small (we all do sometimes), and you want to get out of that state of mind as soon as possible.
So, that’s it, you can share your thoughts below and suggest more good things that we can try 🙂